Sublime

Please be kind to people who had to walk away from family. Many of their stories won’t be told because of how complex & painful they are. Estrangement is a necessary path for many who are broken hearted. Less demands for understanding. More respect for what they’re healing from.

People who deny what they’ve done to you will never offer you peace. Peace is your goal. Not their approval. Not their affirmation. Not their permission for you to heal. Peace...with or without them-in you.

Being heard & believed is a healing gift. To know someone is listening to hear, helps a fearful person relax & be present even in painful memories. To be believed, gives them hope that they don’t have to explain perfectly to be understood. Healing can begin here. Truly, a gift.

People don't get what it means to be a kid in survival mode. While some are building social skills, these kids are building defenses. As adults, some are building families, while child survivors are building what they never had to begin with. Peace to all who know this pain.

When a survivor returns to their perpetrator, they're looking for validation. The hope is that the person who hurt them, will take ownership so some of the pain will stop. The risk in this is giving power to someone who has already shown how they use it.

When a person starts healing after living in survival mode, they have a deep desire for honesty & authenticity. They’ve had to fight for their ability to think clearly & know who they are. It’s been quite costly. They’re not willing to engage with those who won’t respect that.