Sublime

improve your skills for taking care of yourself, evaluate the way you were parented, and discover ways to heal from the uneven parenting in your family of origin.

In Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children, authors Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson talk about healing one hole at a time. “There is no quick fix,” they write. “There is no magical, sudden way to borrow the needed skills and to reclaim our self-confidence and self-esteem. We must do it ourselves step by step; we must bui

This is a book of hope—hope for adults who grew up with parenting that they want to avoid passing on to their children.

When parents take good care of their children, the children grow up knowing how to take good care of themselves.

And we believe that families are the primary places where children learn how to be adults.

After we have considered the ways children get or don't get loving care, we will consider adults whose lives lacked or lack healthy care and what they can do to heal themselves. Perhaps the child in you needs extra care and support.

Children need a balance of nurture and structure, and so do adults. In the process of learning to provide for our children, we need to learn better nurture and structure skills for ourselves as well.

Those of us who were parented in ways that are not supportive to us now can rebuild our own internal structures as we parent our children. We can grow up again at any age. You can use the Structure Chart to help you do that.

we refer to parenting that has been less than adequate as uneven, not as dysfunctional.