Sublime

Our age attempts to cure loneliness through romantic love with the promise that we may, each of us, find one very special person to whom we can tie ourselves for life and who will spare us the need for anyone else. But this emphasis serves only to aggravate our isolation and renders our relationships more fractious than they should be, for no singl

women maintain a focus on their partner/spouse for about three times longer than men do – for about twenty-one years compared to at most seven years for men.

these researchers were able to predict the fate of newlywed couples ten years later just by measuring hormone levels in their blood during their first year of marriage!

This drive to emotionally attach — to find someone to whom we can turn and say “Hold me tight” — is wired into our genes and our bodies. It is as basic to life, health, and happiness as the drives for food, shelter, or sex. We need emotional attachments with a few irreplaceable others to be physically and mentally healthy — to survive.

The result is our tendency to join together into loose networks, or tribes, that gather based on common interest.

This drive to emotionally attach — to find someone to whom we can turn and say “Hold me tight” — is wired into our genes and our bodies. It is as basic to life, health, and happiness as the drives for food, shelter, or sex. We need emotional attachments with a few irreplaceable others to be physically and mentally healthy — to survive.

Lina’s hormone doctor told her that if people are denied certain parts of relationships they need as children, they hunt for these parts as adults.

Love Lab couples for decades, and in the end watched, recorded, and learned from over 3,000 relationships.

How safe we feel is crucial to our physical and mental health and happiness.