Sublime

What behavioral changes on both sides would it take for me to feel satisfied in my relationships?

The Life and Work of Sigmund Freud.

John Bowlby, an anthropologist and psychoanalyst, studied patterns of attachment between mothers and children and came up with four basic schemas: free/autonomous, dismissing, enmeshed-ambivalent, and disorganized.

says, “If I don’t care about me enough to honor myself and my own needs, it doesn’t matter if I’m worth a billion dollars on paper because the money will be useless.”

Like wolves, women are sometimes discussed as though only a certain temperament, only a certain restrained appetite, is acceptable. And too often added to that is an attribution of moral goodness or badness according to whether a woman’s size, height, gait, and shape conform to a singular or exclusionary ideal. When women are relegated to moods, ma

Sometimes, it isn’t words—it’s the behavior of the adults or others around us that we interpret as meaning something about our worth. Gina has discovered that she misinterpreted her mother’s depression as a reflection of her own worth. “I realized I used to think, ‘Mommy is spending time in bed because she doesn’t want to play with me.’ This became

The feminine aspects of the self—the caring, questioning, inviting—are often neglected or dismissed.

The therapist Terry Real described our well-worn behaviors as “our internalized family of origin. It’s our repertoire of relational themes.” People don’t have to tell you their stories with words because they always act them out for you. Often they project negative expectations onto the therapist, but if the therapist doesn’t meet those negative ex

If you seek a healer, analyst, therapist, or counselor, make certain they derive from a discipline that has solid predecessors, that they truly know how to do what they hold themselves out as able to do. Ask friends, relatives, and co-workers whom you trust for their recommendations. Make certain whichever teacher you choose is trained, and adequat