Sublime

Paradoxically, ruthlessness is a way to achieve closeness.

my thinking, cultivating a sense of ruthlessness in our intimate relationships is an intriguing solution to the problems of desire. While it may appear at first glance to be detached and even uncaring, it is in fact rooted in the love and security of our connection. It is a rare experience of trust to be able to let go completely without guilt or f

When we first met I bought him a briefcase for his birthday—something he saw in a store window and loved—and it had two tickets to Paris inside. This year I gave him a DVD and we celebrated with a couple of friends by eating a meat loaf his mother had made.

the application of attachment theory to adult love.

Knowing about the attachment styles empowers people to harness their biology to work for them rather than against them.

We bring to our romantic relationships an almost unbearable existential vulnerability—as if love itself weren’t dangerous enough.

Love confronts two enemies, essentially: safety guaranteed by an insurance policy and the comfort zone limited by regulated pleasures.

O amor duradouro é vital porque nos dá autoconhecimento de maneiras diferentes em relacionamentos estáveis dentro dos quais testemunhamos mudanças ao longo do tempo.