Sublime

This dynamic of identifying with our parents and treating others as we were treated by them is referred to by psychoanalysts as turning passive into active. It is another unconscious distortion of the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you becomes Do unto others as others once did unto you.

Choose an EQ mentor. Find someone who is gifted in your chosen EQ skill, and ask this person if he or she is willing to offer you feedback and guidance at regular intervals during your journey. Be certain to set up a regular meeting time, and write this person’s name in your action plan.

people we can trust because we think we know how they think.

According to Integral Theory, any comprehensive account of anything requires a look at all of these perspectives—the first-person (“I”), second-person (“you” and “we”), and third-person (“it” and “its”) perspectives.

“If an individual has ego needs that are too high,” notes Peter Friedes, Hewitt’s managing partner, “they can be a very disruptive influence.

When one is a member of a social aggregation of two or more people, there are several options for structuring time. In order of complexity, these are: (1) Rituals (2) Pastimes (3) Games (4) Intimacy and (5) Activity, which may form a matrix for any of the others.

Berne defined strokes as the recognition one person gives another, as essential for physical and psychological health.