Sublime

Ickes finds that the longer8 many couples are married, the less accurate they are at reading each other. They lock in some early version of who their spouse is, and over the years, as the other person changes, that version stays fixed—and they know less and less about what’s actually going on in the other’s heart and mind.

That’s Freedom of Relationship.

The master magician teaches us that romance lies in an unstable contest of minds that leaves us knowing it’s a trick but not which one it is, and being impressed by the other person’s ability to let the trickery go on. Frauds master our minds; magicians, like poets and lovers, engage them in a permanent maze of possibilities. The trick is to renew

negativity bias,

Psychotherapist

Internals, especially men, play down the “romantic” notions and mystery of a relationship, but once they are in one, they are more likely to remain in it and be passionate about it.

If you want to know how safe someone is, ask yourself: Is this person with me for him—or for us?