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La théorie de l’attachement commence avec l’idée que deux buts principaux dirigent le comportement de l’enfant: la sécurité et l’exploration. Un enfant qui se maintient en bonne santé survit; un enfant qui explore et joue développe les aptitudes et l’intelligence nécessaires à la vie adulte
Jonathan Haidt • L'hypothèse du bonheur: La redécouverte de la sagesse ancienne dans la science contemporaine (PSY. Individus, groupes, cultures) (French Edition)
Until the age of ten or so, their emotional consciousness and vocabulary are too premature to stand up to what we ask of them in our emotional monitoring and hovering.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Systematic studies indicate that two-year-olds begin to show genuine empathy toward other people for the first time. Even younger babies will become upset in response to the distress of others (we all know the disturbing way the baby will suddenly begin to howl when a marital argument starts). But only two-year-olds provide comfort. They don’t just
... See moreAlison Gopnik, Andrew N. Meltzoff, • The Scientist In The Crib: Minds, Brains, And How Children Learn
Humans are born with few skills and have a great variety of needs. One thing children always need is unconditional love. They need it to thrive and grow, to learn to love themselves and others. They need the words and touch and care that say, I love you; you are lovable. We call this essential contribution to children's growth and well-being
... See moreConnie Dawson • Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children
The automatic, natural contact with his own emotions and needs gives an individual strength and self-esteem. He may experience his feelings—sadness, despair, or the need for help—without fear of making the mother insecure. He can allow himself to be afraid when he is threatened, angry when his wishes are not fulfilled. He knows not only what he
... See moreAlice Miller • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
A child is not free to proceed with his learning and his life until the food issues are taken care of, and we parents do that as a matter of course. Our duty ought to be equally transparent to us in satisfying the child’s attachment hunger.
Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Mate • Hold on to Your Kids
Some Early Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Life, But Which ...
It’s worth repeating that this sense of security provided by the relationship, this secure base, is what makes it safe for the child to explore the world. When we have a safe place to come back to, we can leave, just as when we are securely held, we don’t need to cling. Research shows that secure babies explore when they feel safe and seek
... See moreJasmin Lee Cori MS LPC • The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed
Attachment and individuation are necessary for maturation, and maturation is necessary for genuine socialization. Social integration means much more than simply fitting in or getting along; true social integration requires not only a mixing with others but a mixing without losing one’s separateness or identity.