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However, as sex therapist David Ortmann suggests in his book Sexual Outsiders1(coauthored with Richard Sprott, PhD), erotic fantasies may or may not involve engagement with eroticism that moves beyond sex in more conventional contexts.

Fisher argues that our ancient female ancestors benefited by getting another person to help feed them and their children. They traded sex for food, assistance, and protection. To gain the best and most protein for themselves and their children, women who could have the most sex survived and were the most fit to reproduce again. Their children also

Robert was not a cynical sexual hedonist or a compulsive womanizer. Rather, his problem lay in his willingness to believe his illusions of freedom and his fantasies of being saved by “the one” woman who was meant for him. It was a mutual illusion, since Martha was sharing it. The false promise of the affair is grounded in the false idea that our pr

Over time, this kind of solitary sexual expression can become addictive, because it’s detached from the other parts of his life and from his value system. This addictive process is described in Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes.

Some Myths and their Corresponding Realities – or Antidotes Sex Should Be Natural and Spontaneous versus Magnificent Sex Involves Prioritizing and Being Deliberate

Unlike other addictions, sexual addictions can often lose some of their compelling power as a result of understanding them.

Until testosterone brought it all back. Without the testosterone, he said, “you have no desire.” Phil thought he was in love. Of course he did. As suggested above, one of the few things that reliably revives a male’s sagging testosterone levels is a novel lover.

Her favorite fantasy was one she called the “slutty bride”