Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
A ritual simply separates a sacred space from the rest of life.
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
Think of yourself as a facilitator of your lover’s pleasure, not the source of that pleasure. When two (or more) powerful, responsible, knowledgeable, erotically charged beings come together to share their power in erotic love, there are no limits to where they can go and what they can achieve.
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
Practice open-eyed orgasms. Masturbate while looking into a mirror and look into your own eyes as you orgasm. As you come, tell yourself how beautiful you are and how much you love yourself. THE
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
Here’s a little nugget of Taoist wisdom: sensory deprivation amplifies chi by conserving it. When you blindfold someone, chi cannot leak out their eyes.
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
One Tantric tradition I have always loved is the inclusion of the four elements of nature—air, fire, water, and earth—in each ritual.
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
I often use intense, rhythmic African drumming and Aboriginal didgeridoo, as well as schmaltzy, beautiful, heart-opening music.
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
When her body is fully charged with breath and sexual energy, it’s time for the Clench and Hold. Invite her to take about thirty fast, full breaths and then three big, deep breaths. She holds the third deep breath and tenses every muscle in her body, especially her buttocks, abdomen, and pelvic floor.
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
The most important part of any posture is not how elaborately athletic it is, but how well it facilitates the flow of sexual energy. Key points of connection are the partners’ eyes, hands, tongues, breasts, soles of feet, and genitals.
Barbara Carrellas • Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
The preference we use when we process information is likely to be our sensual preference as well. Knowing which sense you prefer makes giving yourself pleasure more intense and rewarding.