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The therapist Terry Real described our well-worn behaviors as “our internalized family of origin. It’s our repertoire of relational themes.” People don’t have to tell you their stories with words because they always act them out for you. Often they project negative expectations onto the therapist, but if the therapist doesn’t meet those negative ex
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and felt the joy of being an “equal” in her relationship.
Francine Shapiro • Getting Past Your Past
People with parents who consistently let them down emotionally and who failed to provide what was needed rarely feel safe in their adult relationships.
Joseph Burgo PhD • Why Do I Do That?: Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives
Having a Parent Who Cannot Regulate Their Emotions
Nicole LePera • How To Do The Work: Recognise Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
stability, responsibility, compassion, groundedness, maturity, the desire for kids,”
Lori Gottlieb • Mr Good Enough: The case for choosing a Real Man over holding out for Mr Perfect
were to change some of his more limiting behaviors and his beliefs, he would become more fully the person
Harville Hendrix • Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Second Edition
But the Maze is a threat to all relationships, not just marriage, because it warps your view of people. When you’re in the Maze, you literally forget everything good about the other person—all you can think about is the wrong he’s committed.
Phil Stutz • The Tools: 5 Tools to Help You Find Courage, Creativity, and Willpower--and Inspire You to Live Life in Forward Motion
Sometimes people can’t identify their feelings because they were talked out of them as children.