Sublime

When you walk into a room as a presenter, it’s easy to feel as if you’re in a position of power: You’re up front, perhaps even elevated on a stage, and people came to hear you speak. In reality, though, you’re not the star of the show. The audience is. Why? The people you’re addressing will determine whether your idea spreads or dies, simply by emb

Research shows that women incur social costs for advocating for themselves too strongly; they are seen as less likable by those around them, especially by other women. Yet studies also show that women who don’t advocate for themselves at all are not seen as competent leaders. There is a tricky middle ground to find.

Be mindful of the messages in your mind and realize that you can change your thoughts. You can use the power of self-talk to engage in both willingness and optimism throughout your workout. When you begin to encounter discomfort, bring positive “I am” statements to life: “I am willing to keep pushing. I am capable of this effort. I am optimistic th

Rehearse being the Super Somebody you want to be ahead of time. See yourself walking around with Hang by Your Teeth posture, shaking hands, smiling the Flooding Smile, and making Sticky Eyes. Hear yourself chatting comfortably with everyone. Feel the pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone is gravitating toward you. Visualize yourself

Your posture is your biggest success barometer

I took the feedback to heart and literally looked in the mirror. I realized that my most relaxed expression is a frown. In other words, if I’m doing nothing I’m frowning. Not at all the presence I want to convey! So I worked hard to adjust my neutral expression to be upturned, or a slight smile. Now that expression feels natural to me.

Daniel has also found it useful to pay attention to any particular strategies candidates seem to use in order to maintain focus and generate good answers (he calls these strategies “triggers,” analogizing to the way athletes, for instance, prime themselves with mental triggers to maintain good form during a performance—a weightlifter, for example,