Sublime

Knowing about the attachment styles empowers people to harness their biology to work for them rather than against them.

Children become attached to whoever functions as their primary caregiver. But the nature of that attachment—whether it is secure or insecure—makes a huge difference over the course of a child’s life. Secure attachment develops when caregiving includes emotional attunement. Attunement starts at the most subtle physical levels of interaction between

he’s also the director of family counseling at Daystar, a center for kids in Nashville. He’s the author of six books and an accomplished public speaker,

Allen’s superpower is that he’s a problem solver. And as long as he is intellectually challenged by the problem and is meeting interesting people and learning how things work, there’s almost no one better at turning chance into opportunity.

When both partners have healthy attachment styles the framework develops in an open and explicit way.