Sublime

Just for this hour, I invite my real self forward to speak her pain, anger, love, and loss. I never miss this morning appointment with myself, because I can tell something important is happening in my closet. After I write, I feel calmer, healthier, and stronger.

When I got back to Binnenkant 21 from Japan, I found little toys and tchotchkes that she’d bought on the street placed all over the stark white interior of my big house. I asked her to put all her toys in her own room. Then she looked in my eyes and said in a very serious voice, “Don’t you know that small children are afraid of empty spaces?” Wow.

As we’ve learned, one of the functions of the Good Mother is to provide a safe place, a protected environment in which her child can grow and blossom. We continue to need this as an adult. We need an environment that safely and comfortably holds us and that feels nourishing. Just as the Good Mother provides this for the infant, we must learn to pro

It was easier for me to turn off the professional side of my brain when there was a clear dividing line between work life and home life. Each room had one primary use. The kitchen was for cooking. The office was for working.

In order to keep memories as a story of my self, it turns out I needed a sense of self.

Spending time in solitude with your artist child is essential to self-nurturing.

Campbell says you must have a room or a certain hour. A bliss station can be not just a where, but also a when. Not just a sacred space, but also a sacred time.