Jessica

It’s the reverse now. We are in the “management” phase of infrastructure. Rather than viewing immigration as demand expansion and a chance for the pie to grow, we treat it as a scapegoat for wider systemic failures. Immigrants become a proxy war for how we think about identity, who deserves what4 and people on Jubilee argue over who gets the... See more

Talking about love is one of the grand traditions of being alive: what it means to fall in and out of it, how to keep it, how to grieve it, how to live for ourselves and toward another .1

the creative process typically involves three steps:

1. Collecting: Gathering interesting ideas


2. Connecting: Drawing connections and organizing materials


3. Creating: Producing something new

It is a commonly shared sentiment that running is like life. In What I Talk About When I Talk About Running , Haruki Murakami writes:

“If you’re going to while away the years, it’s far better to live them with clear goals and fully alive than in a fog, and I believe running helps you do that. Exerting yourself to the fullest within your individual

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My biggest realization, particularly after my second baby, is that there is just a hard limit on energy that I have per day to do and make and care and build and grow . This is special energy, I’ll call it life force : the energy that powers creativity and relationships, dance parties and belly laughs, new writing and exercise. If I generally get... See more

During an interview following an anniversary fashion show, Ralph Lauren told me that the best advice he could give to a fellow creative is that you’ve got to find a way to be inspired by your life.

Shop the spring outfit makers

I think about it all the time. And am really coming around to the idea that winters in New York are like a sensory... See more

There are a TON of skills you need to get better at to write a good book.

Structure, story-telling, dialogue, description, scene, suspense, explanation, character-building, word choice, energy flow.

If you try to get better at everything at once, you’ll get overwhelmed and not make much progress.

Instead, pick one or two things and focus all of... See more

A big project of mine over the next year will be writing about cultural scripts and expectations in friendship. Friendship is vastly undertheorized as compared to romantic relationships, but they’re just as important: they affect our quality of life in the most fundamental ways. Friendship is an entry point to everything: work, romance, sense of... See more

“I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter." I don't want it to be something that just passes.

“My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person.

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