Jessica

1. It’s Good.


2. It Can be Better.

It’s a little trite, but try it out next time you’re feeling hard on yourself. If you’ve gotten some way into a creative project, the odds are it’s not terrible. It’s probably not where you want it to be or where you’ve imagined it can be, but it’s hopefully at least decent. And it can be better.

Someone’s best qualities, through a squint, are just their flaws.

My biggest realization, particularly after my second baby, is that there is just a hard limit on energy that I have per day to do and make and care and build and grow . This is special energy, I’ll call it life force : the energy that powers creativity and relationships, dance parties and belly laughs, new writing and exercise. If I generally get... See more

During an interview following an anniversary fashion show, Ralph Lauren told me that the best advice he could give to a fellow creative is that you’ve got to find a way to be inspired by your life.

Shop the spring outfit makers

I think about it all the time. And am really coming around to the idea that winters in New York are like a sensory... See more

A big project of mine over the next year will be writing about cultural scripts and expectations in friendship. Friendship is vastly undertheorized as compared to romantic relationships, but they’re just as important: they affect our quality of life in the most fundamental ways. Friendship is an entry point to everything: work, romance, sense of... See more

One of the first things she has you realize is whether your business is mission-driven, product-driven, or customer-driven. It became really evident that we are mission-driven, and from there, everything started falling into place.

“I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter." I don't want it to be something that just passes.

“My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person.

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You don’t need a vacation — you need 6 months of ambitious underemployment, of relaxed discipline, of productive exploration, of intentional meandering, ... of hard leisure.

A character should never get exactly what they want or what they're trying to get in a scene.

Instead, they either SHOULD get what they want BUT it has some unexpected consequence.

Or they should NOT get what they want AND it should have some additional unexpected consequence.