rob hardy
@robhardy
writer of manifestos, petter of cats. in devotional pursuit of a more beautiful internet 🌱
rob hardy
ungated.life
If you’re a perfectionist, you want more of something. What is it? Why do you want that? How do you imagine getting what you want will make you feel? Perfectionism invites a deep, unending exploration of who you are and what you most desire from this life.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Have you tried inventing and inhabiting a complex character who doesn’t have your problem?
Anne-Lorraine (SF till June 10th) • Tweet
I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence. -Frederick Douglass
self renewal and
If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.
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The three elements I've found most helpful in changing harmful habits and patterned behavior (addictions):
- First, pause and notice that you're feeling something uncomfortable (most don't realize this) and that you're hoping this pattern will make it go away. Get curious about what that feeling actually is. Be with it.
- Remind yourself of the consequen
Alex Olshonsky on Substack
There's so little to be done except let go, follow one's nature, and unfold what needs to happen moment by moment, even in the midst of dissolution and Mystery. I am no longer talking about caterpillars.
River Kenna • Destabilization & the Frequency of Values
self renewal and
Universities claim to promote social mobility but inadvertently perpetuate social hierarchies, whereas the military is an explicit hierarchy that inadvertently promotes social mobility.
Rob Henderson on Substack
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