rob hardy

Most people live their lives in between these 2 emotions-

1. Hope that if they achieve something, they will find happiness.

2. Fear that if they lose what they have, they will never be happy.

The day you understand neither of them are actually true is the day you are free.

The notion that “consistent, messy action breeds success” leaves a lot of room for error and can be daunting for perfectionists or those who aim to “do right” — but there’s unique upside to that form of error. Even though there’ll be occasional backlash that comes from messy action, (despite what they say) those who observe will subconsciously... See more

One is a great deal less anxious if one feels perfectly free to be anxious, and the same may be said of guilt.

We have to fall in love with our practice. We have to find a way that what we are doing when we practice is exactly what we want to be doing, and then practice will begin to be what we are doing all of the time, whether we are doing it formally or going through our daily lives.

If practice is a chore, or it is boring, or if you’d rather be doing... See more

It’s common for addicts to realize that it’s addiction all the way down. While some of us have had more “extreme” addictions, all of us have been captured by a recurring false possibility that a certain solution will ease our pain, only to make our problems and pain worse.

It’s baffling how susceptible we are to this progressive,... See more

The simple individualistic humanist frame treats the person as the seat of agency, the atomic unit of moral responsibility and choice-making.

I want you to see the limits of this model. Agency exists at micro- and macro-scales, the “person” is just one step on the ladder.

If you can only advocate for your ideology by shaming your opponents, you will inevitably be defeated by the most shameless people in your society