rob hardy
@robhardy
writer of manifestos, petter of cats. in devotional pursuit of a more beautiful internet 🌱
rob hardy
ungated.life
We are Good Enough.
goodenough.us
The more defensive you are about a belief you have, the more likely that that belief is standing in the way of your freedom.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
self renewal and
A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset feels as if they already “lost” at being whole, good enough, or acceptable as they are. Maladaptive perfectionists strive to achieve goals (including interpersonal goals like people-pleasing) in the hope that others don’t feel empty-handed in their presence.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
It’s not that I know how to do this. It’s that my soul is guiding me through this.
—life mantra
—life mantra
McCall Erickson on Substack
recovery and
When you don’t trust yourself, you’re waiting to catch yourself in a mistake so you can pounce on your own certainty about how unworthy of trust you are. You get petty. You become fixated on your mistakes, and you keep a tally of those mistakes. In contrast, when you notice you’ve been numbing out all week beyond a level you’re comfortable with and
... See moreKatherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
recovery and self renewal
“A conversation has a spirit of its own,” Gadamer writes, “and the language in which it is conducted bears its own truth within it.” This insight directly challenges information-transfer models of communication. Language isn’t just a vehicle for pre-formed thoughts; it’s the medium through which thinking itself happens. Or as Soleio writes,... See more
A Philosophy of Conversation
“True teachers are those who use themselves as bridges over which they invite their students to cross; then, having facilitated their crossing, joyfully collapse, encouraging them to create their own.”
Nikos Kazantzakis
teaching and
This is how to tell a success story: Rather than telling a story of your full and complete accomplishment, tell the story of a small part of the success. Tell about a small step. Feel free to allude to the better days that may lie ahead, but don’t try to tell everything. Small steps only.