Philip Soriano
@philip
Philip Soriano
@philip
The commerce of masculinity is the trading of wit-covered put-downs. Your son will experience it in junior high school. And he’ll experience it even more powerfully if he joins a fraternity. Despite the negative stereotypes, fraternity brothers often bond for a lifetime, sometimes becoming among the few long-lasting friends men have.
When you make something, when you improve something, when you deliver something, when you add some new thing or service to the lives of strangers, making them happier, or healthier, or safer, or better, and when you do it all crisply and efficiently, smartly, the way everything should be done but so seldom is—you’re participating more fully in the
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They are not inserting themselves into every decision or displacing their teams. Instead, they act as teachers and system builders: They're present in the work not to control it or make every decision themselves but to model standards, sharpen problem-solving, and establish behavioral norms that enable others to act with autonomy and discipline. They don't meddle-they coach. They don't override-they elevate. They don't hoard decision rights—they teach others how to make sound decisions on their own. Their involvement is not disempowering—it is energizing. And it is purposeful: to build a system that performs reliably even when they're not in the room.
Love-making is an internal exercise which helps restore imbalances in bodily chemistry. A moderate amount of sex tends to repair hormonal disturbances, to reduce cholesterol and blood pressure levels. Sexual activity alters the body chemically. The reason this happens is because each gland in the body affects all the others. Thus when sex hormones
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