Phil Nguyen
@philintheblank
Phil Nguyen
Ever more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.
Omar F. Najjarine • Why modern life feels meaningless
mental health and culture
A wise husband knows that he must come home from work and put some of his energy into his wife. Listen to her describe her day; sit with her a while; help her with the kids for a bit. Whatever the case may be. Not all wives or girlfriends need the same things, but whatever she does need, it’s his job to provide it. To trade his attention and... See more
Justin Ross • Men Aren't Assholes, They Just Need Sex
Attachment disorders are at their core a form of object impermanence. The insecurely attached babies experience their reliance on their caregiver as ephemeral. They do not trust it will continue. They do not trust she will return. They do not trust their needs will be met. When she leaves the room, she might as well cease to exist. Physical... See more
Small Wire • Romance plot
Money makes us think we know exactly what we are talking about when we do not. It substitutes for self-knowledge, or at the very least delays our inquiry into what we really want. It is a medium to forestall. What money means is “I don’t know yet what I want, but when I do, here is something I can get it with.”
From “Full Pockets, Empty Lives”
... See moreMoney is a means to an end. It is only valuable (to us) once we have defined what matters to us. Accumulating more of it for its own sake will thus not make us happy. What makes us happy involves knowing what we want, and going after it, enabled by money or otherwise.
[Trump] cobbled together a coalition of the wacky and weird. But being weird in America is kind of normal. It’s a very weird place. A lot of Americans belong to cults or odd religious sects, practice alternative medicine, participate in strange fandoms, wild fads, and peculiar enthusiasms. And with the decline of mass culture and the fragmentation... See more
John Ganz • Trump Can Still Win
The San Francisco Bay Area has a long history as the playground of consciousness. For decades, many of its resident technologists have been both habitually curious about — and determined to master — the inside of their brains. This sort of cerebral hedonism is hardly visible to outsiders, in the way that visitors to Miami might be dazzled by the... See more
asteriskmag.com • Manufacturing Bliss
“Cerebral hedonism”
Several studies have found that an individual’s attachment style with romantic partners is not congruent with their attachment style with their parents, a finding consistent with the many other studies that suggest people have different attachment styles in different relationships. The idea that all relationships can be explained through a set of... See more
Don't Be So Attached to Attachment Theory
The incentives of dating apps actively discourage building algorithms that show compatible matches, since finding a compatible match means you no longer need their product. You really are put in a room with total strangers, most likely the wrong kind, instead of those with similar interests and values. If you met the right stranger, you’d hit it... See more