one hemisphere's idea of truth is likely to be more fruitful than the other's. As we have seen in Part I, the aspect of reality revealed by the left hemisphere must be contextualised by being taken up into the broader, and deeper, overarching vision available to the right hemisphere; alas, when the left hemisphere takes the lead, it leads us astray

That's in part because our beliefs about it not only help make the world what it is, but make us who we are.

No single overarching theory of truth can encompass everything we would wish from such a theory, and indeed truth is never finally known; but that does not in any way invalidate the attempt.

-ian mcgilchrist, Matter with things

Ambition comes in two forms, one that precedes interest in the subject and one that grows out of it. Most people who do great work have a mix, and the more you have of the former, the harder it will be to decide what to do.

How to do great work, PG

Differentiation occurs by maintaining yourself in the presence of important persons, not by getting away from them. The difference between running away and walking away after you’re “unhooked” is a critical distinction.

(Passionate Marriage pg 64)

Differentiation is the ability to maintain your sense of self when you are emotionally and/or physically close to others— especially as they become increasingly important to you.

Differentiation permits you to maintain your own course when lovers, friends, and family pressure you to agree and con-form. Well-differentiated people can agree without fe

Differentiation is the ability to stay in connection without being consumed by the other person.

The intimacy in a self-transforming marriage

The image of an adult relationship that is genuinely intimate- sex-ually, but in every other respect as well-brings to light again the theme of reciprocity first seen in the interpersonal balance. Traveling once more over familiar psychological terrain, the evolution of mean-ing, in the interindividual ba

The possibility of a self-transforming couple

Among those supports least studied and of which we are most in need of increased understanding are those supports which assist individuals and couples to evolve not only to that place where each can guarantee to the other his or her distinct identity, but which allow persons to share their identities as

Marriage between two institutional partners

In contrast to the prior alliance, the partners might be expected to share a common meaning for the marriage. Each partner's personal psychological autonomy and distinctness is con-firmed, supported, celebrated; and at the same time each party protects the other against the overrunning of these boundaries.

The hidden risks of a Stage 4-Stage 3 (traditionally male-female) couple:

The institutional partner, that one can be so distinct as to be completely and irremediably alone; for the interpersonal partner, that one can be so close as to lose oneself unrecoverably-are held at bay by the assurance of the continued countervailing influence from the partn