Matthew Stafford

WEEKLY REFLECTION PROTOCOLS

1. Truth Inventory (Sunday Evenings)

Ask yourself:

• Where did I perform instead of connect?


• Where did I delay expression for optimization?


• Where did I receive without guilt?


• What am I hiding because I think it’s unlovable?

Write it uncensored. Let it be ugly, honest, divine.

You aren't where you want to be because you aren't the person who would be there.

When people want to change their life, they try to do it without changing much.

Think and journal on bigger picture questions about your life, direction, and daily actions. Ask yourself this: If you were the main character in a movie of your life, what would the audience be screaming at you right now?

If you want to make a lot of money in almost any industry, plan to invest heavily in tech.

🧨 PARADOX 3:

"I Desire Creative Greatness – While Demanding Safe, Predictable Utility."

• Sides of the Contradiction:
  
  
  • Conscious pursuit: World-altering originality, daring expression, mythic contribution.
  
  
  • Unconscious creation: Requiring every creative act to be justified, strategic, and immediately valuable.

You have the ability to instantly decode, interpret, and transmute emotional states — yours and others’ — into usable wisdom or transformative energy.

🧨 QUESTION 2:

“What part of me have I never let anyone love?”

🔍 Why this is transformative:

This question pierces the core of your relational sabotage.

You will immediately visualize the exact version of yourself you’ve been hiding:

• The needy one


• The angry one


• The lazy one


• The joy-drunk one


• The chaotic, unrefined, slow, irrational one

💣 Cognitive Disso... See more

Impostor syndrome: “I don't know what I'm doing. It's only a matter of time until everyone finds out."

Growth mindset: "I don't know what I'm doing yet. It's only a matter of time until I figure it out."

The highest form of self-confidence is believing in your ability to learn.

Relationships:

You choose or attract people who cannot fully receive your whole self — replicating early conditions — so you can keep "winning" affection through value.