Matty Speers

There’s comfort in absolutism because it gives that person’s ignorance a pass. No work or reading ever required.

Spite doesn’t sustain the evolution, it just lights the fire.

Kurt Vonnegut wrote that most marriages fail because they don’t have enough people in them:

“You should know that when a husband or wife fight, it may seem to be about money or sex or power. But what they’re really yelling to each other about is loneliness. What they’re really saying is, ‘you’re not enough people.’”

People are so helplessly chronically online they see a perfectly normal activity being done in public like reading or journalling and think nah that can’t be real... that it’s so unusual it must be “performative”... lol

Politics and culture move in symbiosis, one responding to the other.

There are three types of friendship, Aristotle says. The first one is based on pleasure—the way our relationship in high school was all about laughing, or the way you can date someone because they are hot and make you feel good. The second is based on utility—you’re friends because it is useful, because your friend plays drums and you need a... See more

Still, I know he is not my savior. I know I am. I know it’s not his word above my own, even if he says really lovely words. I know, if his actions start to show a lack of care, the love I have for myself will carry me away. I don’t lay in my bed at night and fret over that. I don’t pick fights in anticipation of that happening.

Men have come in fits and bursts. I won’t downplay the impact because it has been too large to express. Our relationship to men, inside or outside of romantic contexts, has a quantifiable impact on our health. Mental, physical, even spiritual.