Liya Jin
@liyajin
Liya Jin
“the search for the secret lever”
Who will I become.LA Paul
Explores transformative experiences in life and decision-making, emphasizing the challenges of imagining future selves and the epistemic and personal changes that accompany significant life choices, particularly the choice to become a parent.
Linkholy fucking shit. everyone need to read this.
in decision-making for transformational experiences, the “epistemic wall” created by the massive change creates (1) unknown subjective value problem, and (2) the self-alienation problem (with present vs future self).
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In our everyday 3D lives, we apply force to matter and get predictable results. We unpack groceries, chop garlic, and switch on a stovetop to boil water for spaghetti. These familiar objects appear to be inert. They do what you make them do. But this model doesn’t port to inner moves. In the subtle realms of mind and emotion, applying force creates... See more
we are simply incapable of imagining ourselves on the other side of a profound change, because the present self doing the imagining is the very self that needs to have died in order for the future self being imagined to emerge.
This is why the profoundest changes tend to happen not willed but spawned by fertile despair — the surrender at the rock
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We create ourselves. The sequence is suffering, insight, will, action, change
psychoanalyst Allen Wheelis wrote in his 1973 field guide to how people change
When we orient so much of our lives around a certain kind of life — whatever version of that we thought we wanted — it can be startling to realize we may not actually want that anymore. It’s another life transition, another means of becoming ourselves.