Kylee Schmuck

When our error detection machinery goes into overdrive, we end up with the problem we mentioned earlier: obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Our brain sends a constant, incorrect message that something is wrong, so we keep trying to fix what we think is the source of the problem (out there), but because it is the (internal) message itself that

At the other side of the spectrum from boredom is addiction—not a disengagement but its dark reverse, a pathological degree of repetition or perseverance.

For some of us, the fear of intimacy overpowers the desire for it. It feels safer to be alone or in relationships where we are “unemotionally involved” than it does to be emotionally vulnerable, close, and loving. I understand that. In spite of the range of needs and wants that go unmet when we don’t love, it may feel safer to not love. We don’t ri

AVOIDANCE. Avoidance is usually about fear. Emotions and relationships have hurt me, so I will minimize emotions and relationships. People who are avoidant feel most comfortable when the conversation stays superficial. They often overintellectualize life. They retreat to work. They try to be self-sufficient and pretend they don’t have needs. Often,