julia guimarães [珠丽雅]

Guilt itself engenders negative feelings, and negative feelings in and of themselves also engender guilt. It is that deadly combination which pulls us all down and creates such widespread illness and unhappiness. The guilt is so omnipresent that no matter what we are doing we feel somewhere in our mind that we “should” be doing something else. We

Les dominant·es se sentent très peu coupables, ce qui n’est pas une surprise ; mais l’argument du « refus de la culpabilité » peut même être utilisé pour justifier des comportements abusifs par des personnes qui ne sont en rien en position dominante.

Guilt is not a feeling but a belief or judgment. Appropriate guilt is a judgment that is self-confronting and leads to resolution. Neurotic guilt is a judgment that is self-defeating and leads to unproductive pain. Appropriate guilt is resolved in reconciliation and restitution. Neurotic guilt seeks to be resolved by punishment. In appropriate

Guilt is self-indulgence that comes from remorse, and it has been successfully used by society as a control mechanism.

Because we are taught to assume that people who are threatened will naturally run or fight (or imagine that is what we would do if faced with a dire circumstance), it confuses us to hear that somebody might instead freeze, dissociate, or shut down.

The problem with fear, and any type of threat to the self, is that awareness of the body becomes lost and replaced by the need to protect the self or to collapse. Suppression is the loss of our ability to feel ourselves. Suppression includes defenses of denial (I’m not really scared, just a little nervous!), intellectualizing (I don’t want to be a