Jay Matthews

on erotic intelligence

At first, I just thought — I understood it intuitively, but really, there was nothing substantive and scientific behind it. I did understand that animals have sex. It is the instinct. It is the base. But

we have an erotic mind. And that erotic mind, it is infinite. And eroticism thrives on the ritual and the celebration

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"Five years from now, what will your future self think of your current self? Will you even be the same person?"

We cannot breathe. This is our mantra in America now.

I heard this quote that Elie Wiesel, actually, liked, of Hegel — that genuine tragedies are not conflicts between right and wrong, but conflicts between two rights. But I actually feel like the tragedy of our time is so many wounds, so many sufferings that can’t be equated, and yet they’re all so real. And we try to not address the suffering; we... See more

In contrast, when people live in close social networks they are more likely to seek space than intimate dialogue. When three generations live under one roof, everyone knows his place; the family members are more apt to abide by rules of formality that ensure privacy and discretion. Though much is shared, everyone gets to stake a claim on something... See more

Our respondents unanimously agree that it is important to let problems simmer below the threshold of consciousness for a time.

On the workshop: The low teacher-student ratio (4:16), the deliberate cultivation of community, the concentration on fun, the valuing of personal experience, the adaptability of staff and the open acceptance of differences among and between students contributed to an inclusive and diverse learning environment — an ideal teaching environment, one... See more

The constructivist paradigm has as its central focus is not abstraction (reduction) or approximation (modelling) of a single reality, but presentation of multiple, holistic, competing and often conflictual realities (including the inquirer's).

how to have more fun: 

1. focus on the ingredients: playfulness, connection, and flow 

2. reduce distractions

3. increase connection by interacting more with others 

1. step by step by step 

4. find opportunities to rebel 

1. playful deviance: break rules of responsible adulthood

5. prioritize it: make it a priority 

1. carve out time in schedule 

2. treat

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