Ani
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Ani
what if public libraries were open late every night and we could engage in public life there instead of having to choose between drinking at the bar and domestic isolation
Erin Glasstwitter.comPart of the reason fashion is so complicated to love is its inextricable link with vanity—to put time and energy into it is to walk a tight-rope with your self-respect. Do you get dressed to honor, express, or delight in yourself, or to fit into someone else’s idea of worthiness? Do your clothes enable you to be present and engaged or do they push... See more
#197: What is "personal style"?
Sitting at yum thoughts continued
interiority is not formulaic. You can look to other people for inspiration, but they can’t tell you what is true for you.
Celine showed me this Sheila Heti essay about shopping like an artist: “Whenever something costs a lot, it’s because everyone wants it. The reason you want it is because everyone wants it. And you want it because it costs a lot—you want it more because it costs a lot—because its costing a lot is a sign that it is wanted by many people. The fact that you can afford it and others cannot makes you feel like you are part of an elite circle that not only wants it (like everyone does) but can afford it (like only some).
To turn yourself into an artist, stop buying things that cost a lot. Buy the things that other people don’t want—that only you want, because it’s the right shade of green.”
you can’t fake it by choosing an unpopular thing, because if you do it arbitrarily, the choice you’re making will just be bad. It actually has to come from something real inside you, the place of knowing beyond language.
When people talk about taste and how to acquire it, I often feel like they’re groping for a shortcut to access their own interiority. Most people think about desirability in terms of what other people are doing. Self-possession sells, but you can’t buy it.
https://www.avabear.xyz/p/what-we-talk-about-when-we-talk-about?triedRedirect=tru
“Of course, it’s natural and perhaps even healthy to discover what we like through mimicry. But perhaps it’s unhealthy to never grow out of it—to never develop your own sense of goodness. I saw some Tweet about how men often index on how attractive other men find
... See moreYears may pass before you feel like you’re onto something, and this process will likely involve plugging your ears to the siren song of trends until you realize you actually have the same sensibility you had as a kid, it’s just grown up now. I like the word sensibility, I’ve started using it instead of taste when I’m trying to tap into something... See more
#197: What is "personal style"?
Sitting at Yum thoughts
Every person has their own story, thinking about this is a very perplexing and overwhelming thought. We try to ‘be ourselves' so often and try to find ourselves but really we are all at the same time, from the same place, made up of the same things. This inspired me. Actually taking the time to sit and look around is such a
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