Hazy

Neurodivergent-affirming care for AuDHD burnout is not primarily an attitude shift. It is a structural shift. It treats burnout as a boundary rather than a breakdown. It treats capacity loss as information rather than failure. It treats masking as labor. It treats sensory safety as foundational. It refuses urgency as a solution. It recognizes... See more

Affirming care recognizes that urgency is not neutral for AuDHD nervous systems. Many AuDHD adults survived by relying on last-minute pressure to mobilize attention and energy. That strategy can work until burnout removes access to it. Once that happens, trying to force urgency back into place does not restore functioning. It deepens collapse.

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Non-affirming care often begins with symptom checklists and compliance expectations. Affirming care begins with mechanism. It asks questions that reveal the shape of your life, not just the presence of distress.

It wants to know what demands have been non-negotiable for you. It wants to know what you have been forcing yourself through. It wants to... See more

When stress isn’t separated from identity, it can turn existential. Instead of thinking “this job is hard,” people think “I’m wasting my life.” Negativity bias (the brain’s tendency to prioritize threats over wins) reinforces this, making setbacks feel more meaningful than progress.

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you... See more

It taught me something I’ve never forgotten: confidence doesn’t come from fitting in, it comes from recognizing what feels aligned to you.