Elfina
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Elfina
To best respond to whatever arises in front of us day by day or even moment by moment, we sometimes need to tighten up on the reins of autonomy, while loosening the reins of connection. In other moments, we tighten the connection reins, moving in closer to our partners while releasing the autonomy reins…With practice, we learn that autonomy and
... See moreJessica Fern • Polysecure
Codependency is when you repeatedly (on a subconscious level), ignore yourself in order to gain external validation, love, and a feeling of worthiness.
Codependency often develops due to emotional neglect in childhood. Parents are often doing the best they can but being emotionally available & attuned to the child is... See more
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Codependency doesn’t begin with love.
It begins with the terror of being too much.
It begins when a child realises that her needs overwhelm the people she depends on. That her hunger makes others retreat. That her “no” is met with withdrawal. That her boundaries make the bond feel... See more
instagram.comcodependency, the term used to describe relationships in which one or both partners are focusing on the other’s needs in order to protect themselves from feeling their own pain and fear.
Jessica Baum • Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love
interesting!
“ For love is not about merging. I t’s a noble calling for the individual to ripen, to differentiate, to become a world in oneself in response to another.”
Anita Barrows • Joanna Macy and Anita Barrows — ‘What a world you’ve got inside you.’ | The On Being Project
independence vs co-dependence
This is one of my favorite poems, from Kahlil Gibran
We read it at the beginning of our week-long intensives. https://t.co/KnKqSGF9DG
There’s a reason we are drawn to gazing at the ocean. It is said the ocean provides a closer reflection of who we are than any mirror.
Rick Rubin • The Creative Act: A Way of Being
“What were you before you met me?"
"I think I was drowning"
"And what are you now?"
"Water”
―Ocean Vuong, On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous