Darren Farfan
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Darren Farfan
The Power of the Perfect Pause
The quietest person at a dinner party often leaves with a reputation for brilliance, while others talk themselves into corners.
You see it in boardrooms too – the executive who tilts her head thoughtfully during presentations, somehow radiating wisdom without speaking a word. Even therapists build their practices more o... See more
The quietest person at a dinner party often leaves with a reputation for brilliance, while others talk themselves into corners.
You see it in boardrooms too – the executive who tilts her head thoughtfully during presentations, somehow radiating wisdom without speaking a word. Even therapists build their practices more o... See more
Attention Required! | Cloudflare
Never underestimate the value of careful observation. You will learn more by watching, listening, and experiencing the outer and inner worlds with a clear mind than you will ever learn by talking, or by trying to demonstrate your intellectual prowess to others.
William Ferraiolo • Meditations on Self-Discipline and Failure: Stoic Exercise for Mental Fitness
“The quality of your conversations is greatly dependent on the quality of your listening.”
Ryan Holiday • 21 Powerful Life Lessons From My Mentor (George Raveling) - RyanHoliday.net
communicating empathy.7 There is something profoundly spiritual about listening. It is the most effective form of conflict resolution I know. Many things can create conflict, but what sustains it is the feeling on the part of at least one of the parties that they have not been heard.
Jonathan Sacks • Studies in Spirituality (Covenant & Conversation Book 9)
- The basic rule for practicing this art is the complete concentration of the listener.
- Nothing of importance must be on his mind, he must be optimally free from anxiety as well as from greed.
- He must possess a freely-working imagination which is sufficiently concrete to be expressed in words.
- He must be endowed with a capacity for empathy with another
Maria Popova • Erich Fromm’s 6 Rules of Listening: The Great Humanistic Philosopher and Psychologist on the Art of Unselfish Understanding
Many communicators try to make themselves look smart. Great listeners are more interested in making their audiences feel smart. They help people approach their own views with more humility, doubt, and curiosity. When people have a chance to express themselves out loud, they often discover new thoughts. As the writer E. M. Forster put it, “How can I
... See moreMake a commitment today to listen well. When someone is speaking, listen with your whole body. Listen without trying to form a response. Listen to the words being spoken and listen to the currents underneath the words. Practice listening with compassion.
Rabbi Levy • Journey Through the Wilderness: A Mindfulness Approach to the Ancient Jewish Practice of Counting the Omer
Documentary filmmaker Valarie Kaur on listening:
“Deep listening is an act of surrender. We risk being changed by what we hear.
When I really want to hear another person’s story, I try to leave my preconceptions at the door and draw close to their telling. I am always partially listening to the thoughts in my own head when others are speaking, so I c... See more
“Deep listening is an act of surrender. We risk being changed by what we hear.
When I really want to hear another person’s story, I try to leave my preconceptions at the door and draw close to their telling. I am always partially listening to the thoughts in my own head when others are speaking, so I c... See more
James Clear • 3-2-1: Pushing yourself, listening, and a simple rule for life and work
“The first duty of love is to listen." - Paul Tillich