Catherine Howard
@considerthelily
Catherine Howard
it is so beautiful that the season for citrus is the winter, how can something so zesty grow in the coldest times
It’s the doorway to peace, not because the pain goes away, but because the suffering from resisting it does.
“Radical acceptance means that you have stopped fighting with reality and throwing fits about what has happened. You have decided to acknowledge and accept it instead. Once you do this, you may feel intense sadness because you have now given up on all hope of a better past or a better outcome currently. At the same time, you may also feel great
... See morebefore now, i never really had to sit with regret. at the age of 25, i thought i was someone who didn’t regret things - i didn’t feel like there was a good or bad decision to be made. i felt as if i trusted the decision i made at the time is one that i want. i know now, that is not true. i have truly made a decision i deeply regret.
maybe it was the
... See morethe idea of always reading someone else’s horoscope
“… When we direct our senses to human voices or images of the past replayed from media recordings we are not communicating with the dead; rather, we are dealing with the past as a form of delayed presence, preserved in technological memory.”
wolfgang ernest
Intimacy is not ownership, and it is not always reciprocal in the way we hope. You can feel deeply connected to someone who will never feel that with you. That doesn’t diminish the intimacy; it simply reveals its asymmetry. And you can be intimate with people without ever touching them - a mentor, a stranger whose story becomes part of your own, a friend with whom words are unnecessary. Western individualism, shaped by scarcity logic, insists intimacy is a scarce resource, something to be hoarded. But intimacy multiplies. It expands as it is shared. The soul, unlike the ego, is generous in its capacity for closeness.
To be loved is to be known
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Love changes what we pay attention to. We start noticing things they care about because we care about them. We learn things we will continue to know even if we end up growing apart.
in small town tennessee, i grew up surrounded by depictions of traditional feminity shaped through religious subtexts. certain religious environments praise suppression as virtuous. in the context of my life, the more i was able to quell desire, the more faithful i felt to god. on a larger societal level, suppression for women is viewed as even
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