what even is perfectionism??

boy, this single word sure does mean a lot of things to a lot of people, huh?

life is coming from you, not at you

blue • Tweet

my impression of the individuation process is that we all know, at some level, what we need to do... we sense the truths we need to face & the actions we need to take

but it’s a lot of work & suffering and so we spend years trying to negotiate our way out of it. “must I really do this? must I?”

“surely there’s a hack and a shortcut... surely there’s... See more

x.com • Geneia@home @home

one of the most exhausting habits, maybe even addictions, is the desire to want to be seen accurately, judged correctly, understood perfectly

there is power in letting distortion exist

when the need to be understood loosens, the energy returns to what actually wants to be made

Leona • Tweet

I can’t wait until I’m perfect and I can finally start living my life

natalie x.com

“Boundary lines, of any type, are never found in the real world itself, but only in the imagination of the mapmakers.”

Ken Wilber

is your perfectionism coming from fear or from love?

love-based perfectionism sounds like:

- "I want to make this better"

- "I can see how beautiful this could be"

- "it'd be even more fun if I could do it this way"

fear-based perfectionism sounds like:

- "I need to make this better"

- "I'm scared to put bad work into the world"

- "I'd finally feel relief... See more

scott 🌞 • Tweet

When you chase perfection, when you make perfection the ultimate goal, do you know what you’re doing? You’re chasing something that doesn’t exist. You’re making everyone around you miserable.

You’re making yourself miserable. Perfection? There’s about five times a year you wake up perfect, when you can’t lose to anybody, but it’s not those five

Andre Agassi • Open: An Autobiography

If there is such a thing as human perfection, it seems to emerge precisely from how we handle the imperfection that is everywhere, especially our own. – Richard Rohr

“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.”

-John Steinbeck