đ Things to return to
by Bronwyn ¡ updated 1mo ago
đ Things to return to
by Bronwyn ¡ updated 1mo ago
At first, these adaptations make it possible to survive. But eventually, the methods you used to feel comfortable and safe rendered you increasingly defended, shut down, prone to escapism, resistant to reality, anxious, avoidant, neurotic, narcissistic, depressed, hopeless. This is true because when you function through a series of defenses, fantas
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I suppose this is what I mean when I say we cannot possibly know what will manifest in our lives. We live and have experiences and leave people we love and get left by them. People we thought would be with us forever arenât and people we didnât know would come into our lives do. Our work here is to keep faith with that, to put it in a box and wait.
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Because what scares me a hell of a lot more than pain is living my entire life and missing my becoming. What scares me more than feeling it all is missing it all.
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I understand now that no one else in the world knows what I should do. The experts donât know, the ministers, the therapists, the magazines, the authors, my parents, my friends, they donât know. Not even the folks who love me the most. Because no one has ever lived or will ever live this life I am attempting to live, with my gifts and challenges an
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Seriousness saddles the work with a burden. It misses the playful side of being human. The chaotic exuberance of being present in the world. The lightness of pure enjoyment for enjoymentâs sake.
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âThe child says: âWhen I am a big boy.â But what is that? The big boy says, âWhen I grow up.â And then, grown up, he says: âWhen I get married.â But to be married, what is that after all? The thought changes to âWhen Iâm able to retire.â And then, when retirement comes, he looks back over the landscape traversed; a cold wind seems to sweep over it;
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The opposite of sensitive is not brave. Itâs not brave to refuse to pay attention, to refuse to notice, to refuse to feel and know and imagine. The opposite of sensitive is insensitive, and thatâs no badge of honor.
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