Things that make you go Hmmmm

I spent years believing that finding my voice would save me—as if the perfect arrangement of words could heal all wounds and bridge every misunderstanding.

If you try to use spiritual healing to solve practical issues without doing any of the practical work, you'll feel like a failure, like you have some deep-rooted spiritual inadequacy that keeps you from thriving.

It's not true. It's not true.

When you learn how to do the practical parts of business, it helps to highlight where you do need healing,... See more

If I could time travel now, I wouldn't just tell my people-pleasing self that "the wrong people should love you less." I'd sit with him in his fear and say: "When they do love you less, your heart will break—and that's exactly what needs to happen."

I'd tell him that the ache he feels when someone walks away isn't failure—it's his soul finally... See more

the goals that compose your mind, identity, and perspective—often in that order, like a set of concentric circles—filter what you perceive

Emotional Theft Is Still Theft

When you comply with this kind of behavior, you’re giving them something real. Something expensive. Your energy .

And make no mistake—emotions cost energy. If you’ve ever had a sobbing, heaving, body-shaking cry, you know: it takes a toll. You’re physically drained afterward.

So when someone uses your biological... See more

Since goals compose your identity, a bodybuilder with feel pain when they are thrown out of their routine. They aren’t under any real threat, but it feels like they are because their identity is threatened by the lack of progress toward its goals.

Dopamine signals when something is important to our survival. We remember that information because it... See more