Things that make you go Hmmmm

Social Dynamics = Energy Economics

Every social interaction is a transaction. The currency? Neurological data. Broadcasted from your body via your electromagnetic field. You are constantly transmitting—consciously or not.

In healthy relationships, this data is exchanged mutually. Nourishing. Balancing. Reciprocal. You give, you receive. Simple.

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When I began to release my people-pleasing tendencies, I told myself that I was writing a new chapter in my life. I imagined myself on some sort of hero's journey, not knowing that I was actually walking into a hall of mirrors.

I assumed that my newfound commitment to self-advocacy would deepen every relationship in my life. I pictured the moment in... See more

let’s talk about patterns.

Because trust isn’t about love, loyalty, or how someone makes you feel in the moment. It’s about what they do. Consistently. Predictably. Especially when it’s inconvenient.

Trust is pattern recognition.

Not sexy. Not sentimental. But clean. And if your perception has been used against you, clean is sacred.

I find for myself that my first thought is never my best thought. My first thought is always someone else’s; it’s always what I’ve already heard about the subject, always the conventional wisdom. It’s only by concentrating, sticking to the question, being patient, letting all the parts of my mind come into play, that I arrive at an original idea.

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Anger aims at restoring lost control and often achieves at least an illusion of it.

The internet has made us all cargo cultists to some degree. We see someone successful describe their process and we assume that their success flows from that process. We copy the external forms without understanding which elements actually matter. Maybe the successful person's elaborate morning routine contributed to their achievements, or maybe... See more

You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was Dostoevsky and Dickens who taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, or who ever had been alive. Only if we face these open wounds in ourselves can we... See more