Things that make you go Hmmmm

Being wanted is very different than being valued and recognizing the difference is life changing work.

Nervous System Hijacking 101

Here’s the real kicker: when someone is trying to control you , they’re not actually trying to control you at all.

They’re trying to regulate their own nervous system.

Let that sink in.

Because they’re unwilling—or unable—to self-regulate, they use you as their emotional pacifier. And when you comply, you become their... See more

I emailed some of the early members of the women’s movement to ask how men around them adapted to such fast-moving changes. When it came to their intimate male partners, they told me, hostility toward feminism wasn’t so blatant; as it had with Mor, it took the form of a jumbled ambivalence that had the power to make reasonable women feel utterly

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As I’ve been suggesting through my last few pieces, these subjects and news stories are more like the figures on the TV than the ground on which we actually live. Yes, they are real events and have real repercussions. But to most of us, most of these phenomena are not directly related to our lived, moment-to-moment experience. Even if our house is... See more

Connective tissue wasn’t even acknowledged, much less treated as an organ, by Western medicine until the last few years. They didn’t even acknowledge its existence, or the meridians, gut biome, or any of the other liminal, in-between things that actually compose the community of organisms our bodies represent and share.

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Since goals compose your identity, a bodybuilder with feel pain when they are thrown out of their routine. They aren’t under any real threat, but it feels like they are because their identity is threatened by the lack of progress toward its goals.

Dopamine signals when something is important to our survival. We remember that information because it... See more