Things that make you go Hmmmm

If I could time travel, this is the seven-word lesson that I would tell the people-pleasing version of myself: "the wrong people should love you less ."

I would have told him that the people who can only love a filtered version of you aren't equipped to love the real you.

I would have explained that losing someone because you finally showed up... See more

If I could time travel now, I wouldn't just tell my people-pleasing self that "the wrong people should love you less." I'd sit with him in his fear and say: "When they do love you less, your heart will break—and that's exactly what needs to happen."

I'd tell him that the ache he feels when someone walks away isn't failure—it's his soul finally... See more

Emotional Theft Is Still Theft

When you comply with this kind of behavior, you’re giving them something real. Something expensive. Your energy .

And make no mistake—emotions cost energy. If you’ve ever had a sobbing, heaving, body-shaking cry, you know: it takes a toll. You’re physically drained afterward.

So when someone uses your biological... See more

To be soft also means to be open to new encounters: to not have a fixed boundary, but a porous and negotiable one. The softness of the living is embodied in our capacity to form new relations across the thresholds of skin, cell membrane, and genetic heritage.