Things that make you go Hmmmm

The advice that would actually be useful is the advice I couldn't have followed.

Since goals compose your identity, a bodybuilder with feel pain when they are thrown out of their routine. They aren’t under any real threat, but it feels like they are because their identity is threatened by the lack of progress toward its goals.

Dopamine signals when something is important to our survival. We remember that information because it... See more

The best stories are often the trickiest ones. The good and bad things about stories is they're a kind of filter. They take a lot of information, and they leave some of it out, and they keep some of it in. But the thing about this filter, it always leaves the same things in. You're always left with the same few simple stories.

Now I understand that silence can be more powerful than speech. Not speaking up can sometimes be a greater act of self-love than any amount of self-expression. When you stop explaining yourself to people who are determined to misunderstand you, you reclaim your energy for the connections that truly matter.

Here’s the truth no one tells you. Betrayal isn’t just interpersonal. It’s neurological.

It corrupts your internal compass. It warps your signal detection. And if you want to heal, you don’t need vague affirmations. You need precision tools.

These three questions are my tools now. And no one gets access to my inner life unless the answer to all... See more

If I could time travel now, I wouldn't just tell my people-pleasing self that "the wrong people should love you less." I'd sit with him in his fear and say: "When they do love you less, your heart will break—and that's exactly what needs to happen."

I'd tell him that the ache he feels when someone walks away isn't failure—it's his soul finally... See more