Things that make you go Hmmmm

Most newsletter efforts won’t become valuable until you’ve been producing work for some time and gradually built up a list of people who are invested in your work and have seen you in action. We’re talking years here. Unfortunately, by that point, some writers will have decided the email newsletter is not worth it. But the newsletter list acts like... See more

A selfish jerk is more likely to respect your boundaries.

Dr. Hirsch and Dr. Weisner say that true narcissists will often react negatively to your boundaries with aggressive behavior, such as insults and argumentativeness, or pressure to accommodate their request. “That typically happens when it feels insulting or aggressive (to them) that you have... See more

The Energy Audit

So what is energy, really?

We don’t know. Not exactly. But we know this: it leaves signatures. And if you want to understand how energy is working in your life, the cleanest method is biological observation .

• Which people leave you feeling charged?


• Which ones leave you drained?


• What foods wake you up?


• What foods sedate you?


• What

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Authority Is a Somatic Posture

Claiming internal authority isn’t a concept. It’s a posture. A neurological setting. A somatic state that says:

I own myself.

I trust my perception.

I direct my life.

I make the call.

And yes—it’s rare.

Because most people are walking around with an invisible audience in their head. A chorus of opinions, rules, and... See more

We can’t find a proper, sustainable relationship to nature, each other, or the institutions we create, if we try to do it from the role of omniscient conqueror.

Nervous System Hijacking 101

Here’s the real kicker: when someone is trying to control you , they’re not actually trying to control you at all.

They’re trying to regulate their own nervous system.

Let that sink in.

Because they’re unwilling—or unable—to self-regulate, they use you as their emotional pacifier. And when you comply, you become their... See more

“What you encounter, recognize or discover depends to a large degree on the quality of your approach. Many of the ancient cultures practiced careful rituals of approach. An encounter of depth and spirit was preceded by careful preparation.

When we approach with reverence, great things decide to approach us. Our real life comes to the surface and its... See more

Effectiveness is always contingent on the desired effect.

The effects we're least likely to examine closely are often those that perpetuate the status quo or serve interests other than our own.

When a woman who's been socialized within diet culture asks another woman who's been socialized within diet culture if a workout is effective, there's a good... See more