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The American culture has two biases that border on taboos. One is the bias/taboo against dwelling on negatives. We're trained to respond with a positive statement: a reassurance, discounting the problem or voicing a solution.

The second is that every problem has a solution that's within reach of everyone. This manifests the "can do" spirit: if ther... See more

We can’t find a proper, sustainable relationship to nature, each other, or the institutions we create, if we try to do it from the role of omniscient conqueror.

If you try to use spiritual healing to solve practical issues without doing any of the practical work, you'll feel like a failure, like you have some deep-rooted spiritual inadequacy that keeps you from thriving.

It's not true. It's not true.

When you learn how to do the practical parts of business, it helps to highlight where you do need healing, ... See more

A selfish jerk is more likely to respect your boundaries.

Dr. Hirsch and Dr. Weisner say that true narcissists will often react negatively to your boundaries with aggressive behavior, such as insults and argumentativeness, or pressure to accommodate their request. “That typically happens when it feels insulting or aggressive (to them) that you have... See more

To be soft also means to be open to new encounters: to not have a fixed boundary, but a porous and negotiable one. The softness of the living is embodied in our capacity to form new relations across the thresholds of skin, cell membrane, and genetic heritage.