the perfectionist's manifesto
a personal manifesto about moving away from perfectionism as pathology, and towards perfectionism as profound gift that can be harnessed and bring us more fully to life
the perfectionist's manifesto
Perfectionism is easy to see on someone. Physically it is a rigidity in the musculature and there can be stunted tones in the voice. Mentally they are often second-guessing themselves, hesitant, and overly precise.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
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Trying to get rid of your perfectionism is like trying to get rid of the wind by whacking it with a broom. Perfectionism is too powerful for an eradication approach. When you try to get rid of your perfectionism, all you’re doing is hemorrhaging energy at the opportunity cost of attending to your wellness.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
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Healing is not becoming the best version of ourselves. Healing is letting the worst version of ourselves be loved.
Renee Solana • Tweet
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Imperfection doesn’t matter.
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Seems like one of the highest leverage stories for many ppl (me included) to reprogram is the one that goes like:
>I am struggling
>I am struggling and it is my fault
>I am struggling and it is my fault and I have to deal with this on my own
>I am going to isolate myself until I am presentable for other humans
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I have a working theory that the anxiety I feel is actually a massive amount of positive energy.
It just feels uncomfortable because I haven’t learned how to channel that much energy yet.
When I’ve been able to let it flow freely, my whole body fills with bliss.
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When you make something for someone else, you get glimpses. When you make something for you, you get goosebumps.
Jason Fried • Tweet
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Perfection is a paradox—you can never become perfect, and you already are perfect. A perfectionist in an adaptive mindset believes both those statements are true. A perfectionist in a maladaptive mindset believes both those statements are false.
Katherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
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perfection is an abstract concept. It takes an abstract mind to grasp its meaning and to cherish a vision that does not exist in the concrete world. Facility with abstraction is the sine qua non of giftedness; this quality differentiates the gifted from others throughout the lifespan.
Dr. Linda Silverman • Perfectionism: the Crucible of Giftedness
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