Sunlight

To survive the deeds of the powerful, we must first understand our needs. Once named precisely, we can work more effectively to meet them. When you feel yourself enthralled by anxiety and fear, it is good to remember your needs. Then, if you can meet them, try to meet the needs of those you love. If you meet those and still have capacity, try to

Sabbath requires surrender. If we only stop when we are finished [our emails, our projects], we will never stop — because our work is never completely done.”

People who loved me kept me alive. By telling them that I wanted to die and describing to them the reality of that pain, they took more and better care of me. In suicidal despair, the best resource is an attentive, capable, and generous person. In my case, my wife, mother, and sister helped me meet my needs: they ensured I didn't hurt myself; they

But in any context where there are more things that feel like they need doing than there’s time available in which to do them – which is the normal state of affairs, after all – a to-do list is by definition really a menu, a list of tasks to pick from, rather than to get through. And operating from sanity means treating it that way: starting with

What brings fulfillment is being in a certain form of reciprocal relationship with the rest of the world, including other people; you might liken it to a dance in which you alternatingly lead and follow. Whereas a relationship in which you unquestionably have the upper hand at all times is no relationship at all.