Sunlight

When you solve problems, you get customers. When you give people better stories about themselves, you build movements. When you give them something to defend, you create evangelists.

Charismatic people are like empty vessels. They receive and pass on sensations without resistance. They are usually the one with the most regulated nervous system in the room, which allows them to encounter other people's ego/attentional structures and dance with them no matter what the exact configuration is, which is why charismatic people are

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People who loved me kept me alive. By telling them that I wanted to die and describing to them the reality of that pain, they took more and better care of me. In suicidal despair, the best resource is an attentive, capable, and generous person. In my case, my wife, mother, and sister helped me meet my needs: they ensured I didn't hurt myself; they

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The less I’m trying to get something out of an experience, the more I find I can get into it, and the more I can be present for other people involved in it. This is not to say that life becomes a matter of unbroken good cheer; after all, it’s sad that a beautiful moment arises then vanishes. But it’s the flavor of sadness conveyed by the Japanese

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There is little tension in their attentional field. Because they are in a fluid and spacious yet highly receptive and responsive state, they can meet you exactly where you are and entertain whatever comes up. They can flirt, joke around, dream, and love without restraint. They are not afraid of what happens, because no matter what happens, they

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