societal
how we relate to one another
societal
... See moreIf you do not learn to meet your needs directly, you will learn to meet them neurotically. You will develop routines [and] relationships… designed to help you get just enough of what you want without having to ask or it… but never enough to be fulfilled. We must extract whatever [fuels] our… neurotic compulsions… [and] dace that. Otherwise we can w
When we all have our needs met, our potential for growth, authenticity, and fulfillment becomes infinitely more accessible.
Needs met based on equity. Energy exchange, earnest.
There is no need for competition. We all get to thrive and be recognized.
— excerpt from my journal 07-01-2025
Remembrance, like Rembrandt, is dark but festive. Remembered ones dress up for the occasion and sit still.
Vladimir Nabokov • Ada, or Ardor: A Family Chronicle (Vintage International)
In some traditions, there are women whose job it is to grieve on behalf of those who are stuck with inability to touch their own grief. {44}
Toko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
We send people away for years, tell them exactly what to do every day and they get to make exacrly one choice every day: do you obey or not? That's the only choice you get to make. Then, after 3, 5, 10 years, we send them out into society and tell them, "Make better choices." But we haven't prepared them for that at all. We have given them almost n... See more
Insights from Byung-Chul Han:
The rise of narcissism, the emphasis on authenticity, and shallow technological experiences are eroding essential societal bonds
We need daily and lifelong rituals to help bring narrative structure into our lives
In the past, p... See more
The faster you’re moving the more you’re in fear. The more you’re in fear, the more you’re thinking about yourself. The more you’re thinking about yourself, the less compassion and kindness you have for others.
from this Reel.
Rushing is only the illusion of moving faster.
- Anxiety of incompetence : my skills are devalued and i have to learn new ones
- Anxiety of irrelevance : people might not relate to, value, or think about me
- Anxiety of uncertainty : I don’t know what the future holds and it feels fickle