connection

My therapist got it. She is a woman who intuitively understands how things are linked even when I’m inarticulate. “You just really value connection,” she said.

It clicked at that moment: I said I liked fun, but she understood it as liking connection . I had never realized that for me the two were one.

The thing I've realized most in the last 3 years of Making Friends is that no one is planning anything

So if you are willing to be a person who plans things, you've grown your ability to connect with people by something close to infinity

willing to bet anyone's life would be 100x better if they struck up a conversation with 3 strangers every day

I do this thing called Record Club. I’ve been doing it for, I think, 12 years, with this group of friends—but they’ve been doing it even longer. It’s not really records as in vinyl; it’s just really music, shorthand for music. We get together, a group of about six of us, and we meet about once a month. The idea is everybody brings two things to... See more