It's easy to fall into the trap of feeling responsible for other people's emotions, reactions, and inner turmoil. We have an innate desire to be understood and accepted. So when others seem upset with us, judge us, or want us to change, we leap to explain, rationalize, and pacify. But in our quest to please or appease, we often lose ourselves.... See more
When you feel like things are hard, your instinct might be to ask “why are things this hard?” Or to curse your luck — but a better question would be “why should things be easy?” Like why are you owed that when the natural state of things is difficulty.