shifting perspectives

When you feel like things are hard, your instinct might be to ask “why are things this hard?” Or to curse your luck — but a better question would be “why should things be easy?” Like why are you owed that when the natural state of things is difficulty.

Only losers go to networking events The only people you'll meet at events are people who want something from you or aren't meaningfully engaged in a pursuit of their own The easiest way to meet interesting people is by having accomplished something yourself

It's easy to fall into the trap of feeling responsible for other people's emotions, reactions, and inner turmoil. We have an innate desire to be understood and accepted. So when others seem upset with us, judge us, or want us to change, we leap to explain, rationalize, and pacify. But in our quest to please or appease, we often lose ourselves.... See more

A sign of emotional intelligence is moving from “You made me feel” to “This is how I reacted.” Our emotions aren’t caused by other people’s actions. They’re shaped by our interpretations. Blaming others gives them power over our feelings. Taking responsibility empowers us.