Shame

And here’s another layer — sometimes, people don’t even ask for what they need because they wouldn’t want to give it themselves. Even when their partner or friend might happily provide it, they hold back out of a fear that they’ll be seen as unfair or too much. "If I wouldn’t want to do this for them, it’s not fair to ask for it myself," they... See more

Men, in this terrain, face a silent crisis. The traditional script (to protect, to provide, to repress) has expired, but no coherent replacement has emerged. Emotional illiteracy, once a survival tactic, now breeds relational confusion. Many men are asked to be vulnerable without having been taught how, to show up without a map. They are told to... See more

"I love what say about shame,

16:43

I'm curious why you didn't mention men."

16:45

And I said, "I don't study men."

16:47

And he said, "That's convenient."

16:50

(Laughter)

16:53

And I said, "Why?"

16:54

And he said, "Because

you say to reach out,

16:57

tell our story,

16:59

be vulnerable.

17:02

But you see those books you just signed

for my wife and my three... See more