Selfhood
Martha said to me, very quietly: “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your bus... See more
Choreographer Agnes de Mille
“When you’re losing a game you don’t even want to play, or forcing a fit into a form you don’t want to be in, the best thing to do is to stop playing and go find your shape.” — A Soft Manifesto by Cortney Cassidy
When Do We Stop Finding New Music? A Statistical Analysis
statsignificant.com
‘music paralysis’, or when and why our music tastes stagnate as we get older.
Late 20s/Early 30s: Complex machinations around friendship as many people move from group living arrangements to couple living arrangements and designations of “close friendship” are solidified or challenged by wedding / wedding party invites (who amongst us has not been surprised by being invited/not being invited to be part of a wedding or attend... See more
Anne Helen Petersen, The Friendship Dip
From one of my favorite Hacker News comments ever, by @Jonathan_Blow: https://t.co/uJgib4x6El
Why it’s so hard to align our work with our values, and how we justify not trying.
Elizabeth Leprovsanchezgomez.substack.com
“In my old life, I believed, I had ascended to the top of a mountain and there was a throne there where I used to sit, and now here I was ten years older, in the valley of beginnings, in a ditch on the floor, just me and my butt and the ground beneath us.“
Leandra Medine Cohen, Founder of Man Repeller
cruel optimism: Lauren Berlant’s seminal coinage for “when something you desire is actually an obstacle to your flourishing.” In Berlant’s usage, optimism is “the force that moves you out of yourself and into the world” in search of something—some sense of self or state of being—that you can’t generate on your own. This optimistic relation can feel... See more
— Rayne Fisher Quann
I can move through pain, but I have an intolerance for a life that doesn’t sparkle.