Narrative distance is the perceived separation between the reader and the unfolding story.
Every story is a subtle negotiation between you — the storyteller — and your Reader. You raise questions and make promises. Then, in return, your Reader invests their attention, trust, and, most importantly, time.
When drawing from real life, the trick is to spend more time looking at the thing you are trying to capture than at your drawing. This is true for writing, too.
The best stories don’t teach people anything new. Instead, the best stories agree with what the audience already believes and makes the members of the audience feel smart and secure when reminded how right they were in the first place.