Reminders for myself

Life actually gets easier when you let it be difficult.

Human beings aren’t meant to be optimized. We are meant to be in relationship. In conflict. In care. In community. And community, here, doesn’t mean constant harmony

Instead of “How are you?” ask, “What’s been on your mind this week?” Then pause. Let silence do some work. Don’t pivot the moment they finish.

What if purpose isn’t something we find , but something we participate in ? Meaning doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It is shaped in relation, through the push and pull of being with others, through showing up, through being witnessed, through witnessing. A life of meaning is not self-contained. It is interwoven.

This is the paradox of convenience: it promises more time, more ease, more freedom, but often delivers the opposite. The more we optimize, the more we isolate. The more frictionless our interactions become, the less real they feel.