Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.
People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more
One of the central myths of American romance right now is this notion that you and your partner should be able to tell each other anything and everything
I am begging you not to do this
There are so many things about you that are just for you, for your soul, as well as a whole other category of things that are only for your therapist or priest to... See more