Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
A relationship, notably, is not an algorithm. It is a gestalt. Far be it from me to say that I’ve figured out what relationships really are or really mean, but I know there is an intangible force formed between the centres of people that sits beyond the limits of interpretation, that is larger than itself and both of you, that cannot be explained... See more
rayne fisher-quann • against narrative
Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.
— Neil Strauss
The Relationship-Centred City
relationshipsproject.org“You can predict the long term health of a relationship by whether each cut heals to 99% or 101%.”
― Michael Mayer
Understanding Others' Emotions | Lisa Feldman Barrett
youtube.comA fantastic insight by Lisa Feldman Barrett: When someone expresses anxiety, the first thing you should do is ask: do you want empathy or do you want a solution?
Will 100% use this phrase going forward.
“The aim of each thing which we do is to make our lives and the lives of our children richer and more possible.”
— Audre Lorde
In other words, siblings are forced together, and then suddenly they’re not. The independence of adulthood—when proximity is no longer required and the obligations lessen—creates opportunities for siblings to build, repair, or discard the relationships of their youth, to stay stuck in or break free of the roles they played as children.
People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more