Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.
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But when they say, “I’m thinking of leaving,” I think, Now hang on a sec. You had me right up to that last bit. Fine: you’ve changed; she’s changed; life has changed. And the kids—well, they’ve disrupted, interrupted, confronted, confounded, and otherwise fundamentally altered everything . All very, very hard. And yes, sometimes it feels
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I had my reasons, of course. As I say, she is crazy. I am, too, but in a very different way. The immense effort it took for me to spend a whole day with her and ensure that it was “perfect”—that I did nothing to offend, upset, or bother her—proved to me that we just didn’t work. And I thought: When a relationship does not work, each party has the
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ritualized, compulsive self-disclosure is not intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy