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Understanding Others' Emotions | Lisa Feldman Barrett
youtube.comA fantastic insight by Lisa Feldman Barrett: When someone expresses anxiety, the first thing you should do is ask: do you want empathy or do you want a solution?
Will 100% use this phrase going forward.
Some years back my wife and I got into the habit of asking each other
‘do you want comfort or solutions’ when the other was having a bad time. That one sentence can save us from an argument 9/10 times.
Alexander Jamestwitter.com“Cuando uno admite sus miedos y que la vida no es eterna, la confianza puede renacer de esta vulnerabilidad”, dijo Dufourmantelle.“Es un riesgo estar vivo, pocos seres lo están”.
Found on Twitter/X - relationships are the strongest correlate to happiness
“Once you grow up, you realize you don’t want to be crazy in love.
You want to be calm in love,
stable in love, patient in love,
understood in love, safe in love.
Your partner should give you peace of mind and reassurance, not constant little heart attacks and high anxiety.”