Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
"What most of us are waiting for is someone else to really think you’re okay with all your warts, just the way you are." - Charlotte Joko Beck
Sara Campbell on Substack
One of the central myths of American romance right now is this notion that you and your partner should be able to tell each other anything and everything
I am begging you not to do this
There are so many things about you that are just for you, for your soul, as well as a whole other category of things that are only for your therapist or priest to... See more
I am begging you not to do this
There are so many things about you that are just for you, for your soul, as well as a whole other category of things that are only for your therapist or priest to... See more
X. It’s what’s happening
In other words, siblings are forced together, and then suddenly they’re not. The independence of adulthood—when proximity is no longer required and the obligations lessen—creates opportunities for siblings to build, repair, or discard the relationships of their youth, to stay stuck in or break free of the roles they played as children.
ritualized, compulsive self-disclosure is not intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
Sebastian Ballister • Tweet
"I want to talk about the great and powerful thing that listening is. And how we forget it. And how we don't listen to our children, or those we love. And least of all --- which is so important to --- to those we do not love. But it would be so different if we did. Because listening is a strange and magnetic thing, a creative force. You can see
... See more“Once you grow up, you realize you don’t want to be crazy in love.
You want to be calm in love,
stable in love, patient in love,
understood in love, safe in love.
Your partner should give you peace of mind and reassurance, not constant little heart attacks and high anxiety.”
if you stand firmly on a self-lain foundation of patience and trust, someone crossing your boundaries is not so threatening. let them in. see what they do in your space. remove yourself if necessary.