Relationships
by Melanie Levitin · updated 1mo ago
Relationships
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- LOPEZ: It feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary. It feels sad. It feels desperate. But when you sit in those feelings and go, “These things are not going to kill me,” it’s like actually, I am capable of joy and happiness all by myself. Being in a relationship doesn’t define me. I can’t be looking for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness wi... See more
from Jennifer Lopez Tells Nikki Glaser How a Turbulent Summer Changed Her by Nikki Glaser
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- According to John Gottman, 69% of a typical couple’s fights are perpetual, based on core differences, and cannot be resolved—and a skilled couple understands this and refrains from engaging in these brawls again and again.9
from How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2 by Tim Urban
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- Maintaining equality. Relationships can slip into an unequal power dynamic pretty quickly. When one person’s mood always dictates the mood in the room, when one person’s needs or opinion consistently prevail over the other’s, when one person can treat the other in a way they’d never stand for being treated themselves—you’ve got a problem.
from How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2 by Tim Urban
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- Communication is hard to do well consistently—successful couples often need to create pre-planned systems or even partake in couples’ therapy to make sure it happens.
from How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2 by Tim Urban
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- Relationships are hard. Expecting a strong relationship without treating it like a rigorous part-time job is like expecting to have a great career without putting in any effort.
from How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2 by Tim Urban
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- Natural chemistry. Interacting should be easy and natural, energy levels should be in the same vicinity, and you should feel on the same “wavelength” in general. When I’m with someone on a very different wavelength than I am, it doesn’t take long before the interaction becomes exhausting.
from How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2 by Tim Urban
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- Trust and security. Secrets are poison to a relationship, because they form an invisible wall inside the relationship, leaving both people somewhat alone in the world—and besides, who wants to spend 50 years lying or worrying about hiding something? And on the other side of secrets will often be suspicion, a concept that directly clashes with the
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- we’re stuck in the tiny unglamorous folds of the fabric of life, and that’s where our happiness is determined.
from How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 2 by Tim Urban
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- The main reason most of the above types end up in unhappy relationships is that they’re consumed by a motivating force that doesn’t take into account the reality of what a life partnership is and what makes it a happy thing.
from How to Pick Your Life Partner by Tim Urban
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