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Forgiveness performed from obligation does two things: it excuses the behavior of others, and it reduces our ability to be conscious and present with the pain we truly feel.
When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.
When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.
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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.” -Melody Beattie
This line from David Foster Wallace still haunts me:
“The next suitable person you’re in light conversation with, you stop suddenly in the middle of the conversation and look at the person closely and say, “What’s wrong?” You say it in a concerned way. He’ll say, “What do you mean?” You say, “Something’s wrong. I can tell. What is it?”... See more
And he’ll
Tommy Dixon on Substack
life is heavy enough without you adding your own self-seriousness to it, you've got to learn to take yourself lightly, life falls into place after that
Dylano on Substack
PAUSE: Postpone Action Until Serenity Enters.
It sometimes feels like a shift that changes when observed, whose effects neutralize if paying too close of attention for whether “this” shift will be “the” shift. It’s perplexing that a salvific shift could itself be cunning, baffling, and powerful, not just the addiction.
The Work Is Not Recovery
“You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity.”
-Albert Ellis
I remember when marijuana was medically legalized in Los Angeles. I would see massive lines out the door of dispensaries in my neighborhood. Looking at everyone waiting for their kush, I’d ask myself, “Are all these people really here for ‘medical’ usage? This feels more like legalizing mass addiction to cope with depression, anxiety and god knows... See more
Tucker Walsh on Substack
My general working definition of compulsive/addictive behavior is “a pathological relationship to any mood-altering experience that has life-damaging consequences.”