recovery
I work best from a place of zero ego and zero hope. I call this state being “lower than a worm.” A feeling that nothing will ever come of what I’m working on is crucial. A feeling of my smallness in relation to the world. I gotta be below the dirt. I am nothing and nobody. That frees me up. Who cares what a worm thinks, you know?
Lincoln Michel • Processing: How Erin Somers Wrote The Ten Year Affair
Recovery as spiritual journey:
First you desperately seek an object to bring you happiness, then, after many face plants, you realize no object can do that, so you stop running and finally face what is, where healing and recovery begin, but then, confronted by your naked wounds without your familiar escape hatch, that too becomes a chase, a far... See more
First you desperately seek an object to bring you happiness, then, after many face plants, you realize no object can do that, so you stop running and finally face what is, where healing and recovery begin, but then, confronted by your naked wounds without your familiar escape hatch, that too becomes a chase, a far... See more
Alex Olshonsky on Substack
Addiction is a progressive narrowing
of the things that bring you pleasure.
Happiness is a progressive expansion of the things that bring you pleasure. The former emerges passively.
The latter takes work.
of the things that bring you pleasure.
Happiness is a progressive expansion of the things that bring you pleasure. The former emerges passively.
The latter takes work.
Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. • Tweet
I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers.
Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.
After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
Aaron Francis
Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.
After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
Aaron Francis
Nathan Baschez • Tweet
"The particular nature of our shame tells us exactly all the ways we need to come out of hiding. Shame is difficult, shame is painful, shame is our reinforced recoil from the same experiences that previously seemed to break our hearts and made us feel shameful in the first place. But shame is our constant companion, who for our own good and for the
... See moreTrusting yourself looks like finding the courage to override the constant temptations to minimize the small but meaningful steps you’re taking to honor your intuition. Trusting yourself looks like depersonalizing setbacks. Trusting yourself looks like realizing that just because the thing you felt so certain about changed, that doesn’t mean you
... See moreKatherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
“You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity.”
-Albert Ellis
Until we’re treating ourselves with dignity when we are struggling, we’re not healing.