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Happiness Declines in Proportion to Your Expectations
The more you expect from life, the more it disappoints you. The less you expect, the more it delights you. Whenever I've expected nothing from creative endeavors, dates, and almost every other situation in my life, I'm always pleasantly surprised. It's better to be pleasantly surprised than unple... See more
The more you expect from life, the more it disappoints you. The less you expect, the more it delights you. Whenever I've expected nothing from creative endeavors, dates, and almost every other situation in my life, I'm always pleasantly surprised. It's better to be pleasantly surprised than unple... See more
Our degree of satisfaction is critically dependent on our expectations. The greater our hopes, the greater the risks of rage, bitterness, disappointment and a sense of persecution. We are not always humiliated by failing at things; we are humiliated only if we first invested our pride and sense of worth in a given achievement and then did not reach
... See moreAlain De Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education
Expectations fall short of reality when: Someone says they hate a movie/book/song that you love. You put a ton of effort into something that ends up flopping. You learn that you’re the last person to find out about a shocking family secret. Some of your foundational beliefs are challenged in a way you aren’t prepared for. You get caught doing somet
... See moreBuster Benson • Why Are We Yelling?: The Art of Productive Disagreement
The other drawback from expectation is that it creates a blind spot. You can only see what you expect to see. The more your system is filled with expectations, the more difficult it is to see something else.
View My Complete Profile • The Expectation Paradox
As Anne Lamott said, “Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” We have the tendency to visualize an entire scenario or conversation or outcome, and when things don’t go the way we’d imagined, disappointment can become resentment. This often happens when our expectations are based on outcomes we can’t control, like what other people think, w
... See moreBrené Brown • Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
This is how it works: You’ve always wanted to be a writer, but instead you decide you should become a health care worker. You go to school for four years. You get a degree in social work. You are at your first day of your new job, listening to an orientation, and you realize you really did want to be a writer. You quit your job, go to the library w
... See moreNatalie Goldberg • Wild Mind: Living the Writer's Life
Last Year My Mind Exploded and Now I'm in Spiritual Puberty Again
Sasha Chapinsashachapin.substack.comThe Last time I saw you, you were in a catastrophy of reality.