Post-individualism

That’s the thing about attachment—you need to depend to be independent. You need a stable base to venture out. Something to rely on to take risks. Some stability to cope with chaos. Otherwise you can’t explore with confidence. If you fear abandonment, you won’t risk romance. Words will feel traumatic. You will stay stagnant, afraid to move. Maybe

“Individuality can only be valuable when it is not individuality for its own sake but individuality for the human community.”

― Viktor E. Frankl, Yes to Life: In Spite of Everything

All this to say, being abandoned is not trivial. Not only having divorced parents, but being cut off from community, from culture, from all sources of support. Maybe it means more to you than you are letting on. Feel it, grieve it. Then turn that disappointment into determination. Nothing’s guaranteed, but we can take the pain and put every inch of

unfortunately, there are no rules in human nature that turn economic abundance into a sense of personal abundance