Perfectionism

In the first draft you are allowed to get lost, take a wrong turn, fall a lot, and yell out in frustration. It doesn’t make sense the first time because it is the first time.

the real struggle of perfectionism isn’t the impossibility of perfection — it’s the constant feeling of failure.

I’ve long lived as if there’s a silent critic in the corner, watching and grading me. Is my kitchen clean? Do my pants fit? Did I complete everything on my to-do list? Did I journal, meditate, exercise? Did I try hard enough? Did I make ... See more

I became the Nancy Drew of my own neuroses, desperately hunting for clues about what was "wrong" with me. Like a spiritual hypochondriac, I diagnosed myself with everything from "ancestral wounds" to "money blocks" to "inner child trauma" to “low self worth.” I grew convinced that if I excavated myself enough, I would find the missing link that was... See more

You don't need permission from your healed self to start living your life. You don't need to wait until your energy is perfectly aligned to trust your intuition.